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Hi, I'm Shirley.
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Shirley | Cert. Life Coach
A lot of people's 1st impression of me as a life c A lot of people's 1st impression of me as a life coach is that I look young (hence, lacking the "life experiences" to be one.) ⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ They send me messages about it. They tell me that on our first calls.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I used to get defensive and felt insecure about this. ⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Now, I'm not anymore.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I just let them be wrong about me.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Because I know it's simply not true.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Yes, I look young. And yes, that doesn't matter.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I'm a perfectly capable and skillful coach.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I can get people what they want to achieve in their lives. ⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You only get triggered by what you (deep down) believe it's true.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ These people ended up still wanting to jump on calls with me.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Many became my clients afterward.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Because I never tell them they're wrong for thinking that way.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I just keep showing them who I am, until they see that this is not a problem, at all.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And it was never a problem.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Sometimes when we really want to improve our lives - and we see that there's a way to do that (ex. through coaching)⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Our brains will look for reasons for us not believe that, to stay where we are (to keep us safe and protected)⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ So perhaps "my looks and my age" just happen to be one of these reasons.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 🌱If you've ever had doubts about me, about coaching, or about your own abilities to get what you want, I'd like to invite you to set up a discovery call with me.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It never hurts to give it a try, and take small steps closer to what you truly want.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Rooting for you,⁠ Shir⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ___⁠ #getoutofyourownway #lifetriggers #selfconfidence #youdoyou #strongbelief #yourfuturewillthankyou #committoyourself #worktowardsyourgoals #goalsetting2020 #dontquitonyourself #nevergiveuponyourself #besuccessful #workonyourdreams #chaseyourgoals #makeithappen #lifecoachingtips
You get to choose who you want to be.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀ You get to choose who you want to be.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You don't base who you are on the past, or even the present.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You decide right now who your Future Self is, and you become that person.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It's not IF you become that person. It's WHEN you do.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ In life coaching, we make a decision and we take action and stick by that decision.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ So...what's your decision? ⁠ Whatever it is, it is yours to make.⁠ And, it's happening.⁠ Without a doubt.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I know it is.⁠ You just don't know it... yet.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Go and make that happen for yourself.⁠ It's going to be amazing.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Rooting for you,⁠ Shir⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ __⁠ #futureself #becomeher #starttoday #embracechange #decidetoday #lifecoachingworks #lifecoachingforwomen #lifecoaching101 #lifecoachingwomen #yourfutureselfwillthankyou #yourfutureself #worktowardsyourgoals #dontquitonyourself #committoyourself #setgoalsnotlimits #youcandohardthings #findyourwhy #daringliving ⁠
The secret to not giving up....is not willpower.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Instead, it's self-compassion.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It's the ability to meet yourself where you're at.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And tell yourself:⁠ you're going to be okay. everything will be alright.⁠ let me try again tomorrow.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Because you don't need to force it and beat yourself up, yet again.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ What you need is extending compassion for yourself, full of love and commitment.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ That is how you create the result that you want.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Rooting for you,⁠ ⁠ Shir⁠ .⁠ .⁠ .⁠ .⁠ .⁠ __⁠ #abundancemindset #abundantlife #acceptyourself #authenticliving #authenticself #awakenyoursoul #becomeabetteryou #begentlewithyourself #beintentional #believeinyou #bestversionofme #betruetoyourself #betteryourself #bevulnerable #beyourbestself #blissfullife #boldbraveyou #breathdeeply #breathedeep #brenebrown #changeyourthinking #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #conqueoryourfears #consciousliving #consciousnessshift #couragetochange #createalifeyoulove #createthelifeyouwant #createyourlife⁠
We spend A LOT of time and energy trying to avoid We spend A LOT of time and energy trying to avoid possible risks and danger.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This is why we save up. Why we create a backup plan. Why we keep doing what's comfortable. And why we worry (also known as thinking about what might go wrong).⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ There’s nothing bad with these behaviors. I mean do them too.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ But if we spend too much time thinking and preventing the worst that can happen, we miss out on creating our desired future based on what IS possible.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 👉How much time do you spend on *probability as opposed to possibility* every week?⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Instead of planning for what could go wrong, try redirecting your brain to focus on the best case scenario and aim towards that.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 🔹This practice will feel unsafe at first… simply because it’s not our default way of thinking (Remember your brain’s default instinct is to go into fear and doubt).⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ But the more you familiarize your brain with this concept, the more you will feel less scared to create something new and different.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ What we focus on GROWS.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Constantly thinking and living in the possibility of your desired future.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This is how you create a different result than what you have right now.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ - Shir
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