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Hi, I'm Shirley.
I'm a Certified Life Coach. I help driven women create joy and success through brain-based coaching, self compassion, and emotional resilience.
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Shirley | Asian Life Coach
I wanted to speak up in class but I held back. The I wanted to speak up in class but I held back. Then someone said the exact answer I was going to say. I could've just raised my hand when I had the chance.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I wanted to buy the perfect jacket that I adored for so long. It was at a higher price point so I hesitated. Next time I checked, it was sold out and I never saw the same style again.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ These are just some instances when I didn't get what I wanted, because I delayed making a decision and waited in that moment.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This works the same with your goals.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Our brain is conditioned to create doubt.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You may not get the same opportunity and drive to do it again, EVER.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 🔹The longer you wait, the more you'll be held back by your own brain's stories about why you can't do it and why you can't have what you want.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ There's never a perfect time to do anything.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ So if you want something, ask for it right NOW.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ If you have a goal, make it happen right NOW.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 🔹Procrastination/ delaying making a decision is truly the killer of your dreams.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It is THE killer of the life that you want to have for yourself.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Waiting is not going to make things better for you.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 🔹Waiting only creates more drama, indecisiveness, and you continuing staying stuck.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This is how you change your life within an instant of a decision.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ By choosing to take action and say yes to yourself⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ not a year later, not in 3 weeks, not tomorrow,⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Right. Now.⁠ In this very moment.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You totally have what it takes,⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ - Shir⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It's not just about how much you can do and ACHIEV It's not just about how much you can do and ACHIEVE.⁠ It's also about, how much do you let yourself RECEIVE.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Do you celebrate yourself?⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Do you ask for help?⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Do you let yourself receive compliments, money, accomplishments, help - knowing that you wholeheartedly deserve them?⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You can achieve lots of things, without letting yourself receive.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And this is where sabotage can happen, when you don't truly believe deep down, that you are the person who has created your results.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This is why some lottery winners can lose all their fortune within 1-2 years.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Why some people can achieve all, and also lose it all, FAST.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ My clients are growing & achieving fast, so... we work on receiving a lot.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Achieving your big goals is not just about doing.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It's also about learning to have it, to receive it, to believe it, so you can become the person who can create it, again and again.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This is how to continuously grow ➡️ by taking actions, and then immersing yourself in the pride and glory of your own results....⁠continuously. Over and over and over again.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You can be on this cycle too.⁠ Join us.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I used to think I can do everything on my own.⁠ I used to think I can do everything on my own.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ... Until I couldn't anymore.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This led to lots of unnecessary suffering, burning out, escaping through scrolling/ watching drama, and living in self-created pain and self-pity.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 🔹The reason why I kept doing this...was because my brain was just used to this method of solving problems for so long - by figuring it out by myself.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And, this is how a lot of us were taught to approach our problems. And Yes, of course this works.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ But I also know I'm not growing as fast, and wasted lots of time and unnecessary energy by trying to figure out on my own.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I thought I was trying to be responsible and independent and all.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ But really, I just felt weird/ awkward whenever I let others help me.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Because I didn't know if I CAN ask for help.⁠ ... or, if I truly DESERVED to receive help.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Notice if this similar feeling is coming up for you.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ If it feels weird, that's the more reason to do it.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Ask for what you want.⁠ And then, GET what you came for.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You CAN have what you desire, without needing to do it all on your own.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Let people help you.⁠ Let good things just HAPPEN to you.⁠ Everything can be rigged in your favor.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It's just about really training your brain into really believing that for yourself⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You got this,⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ - Shir⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ P.S. Not sure how to implement this in your life?⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I help people open themselves up to receive help, ask for what they want, face their fears with courage, and achieve what they thought was once impossible... by applying simple and tangible steps into daily life.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You can do that too. All you need is to reach out and ask.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Binge watching drama after work is not a hobby (so Binge watching drama after work is not a hobby (sorry)⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Sure, if you planned beforehand that you're going to watch an episode in the evening and just enjoy it, then by all means continue to do that.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ But if you end up "accidentally" watching yet another 3 or 4 episodes in a row...⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ or if you actually wanted to come home to exercise or play the piano, but you gave in last minute to turn on Netflix once again (with a bag of chips beside you...)⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ... This, is called escaping.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Maybe you're often anxious about what your boss is going to say to you at work, or perhaps your co-workers are not the best to work with.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Or maybe work in general has just been stressful, overwhelming, and energy draining. ⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ So really, it's NOT that you don't have time outside of work...⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You're just so tired whenever you come home, you don't even want to think about that new hobby you wanted to try.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ So naturally, binge watching a show is just SO much easier.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ But it doesn't have to keep being like this.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I help people manage their energy at work and after work.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 🔹I can help you get work done in the office with so much more focus, and still be excited to work on your side project/ hobby when you come home... without feeling drained and exhausted.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Let's make that happen for you.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Send me a message to schedule a 60-min discovery call.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I'll help you evaluate where you are right now and create a coaching plan for you.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You can totally have a life outside of work.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ A very fun, exciting, and a deeply fulfilling one too.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It's all possible.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Get started today. ⠀⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ -Shir⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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