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Hey friend. I'm Shirley.
Certified Life Coach. Dreamer. Adventure Seeker. Personal Development Geek. I help you calm anxious thoughts, figure out your life, and take consistent actions toward your goals.
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Shirley | Cert. Life Coach
“My tasks aren’t that important.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In the early days of my self-employment journey, I was thinking that a lot. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For the life of me I could not get up early. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m more productive in the morning, yet I’d sleep in until 10 am every day. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’d spend the afternoon and evening creating rushed, sloppy work and head to bed later than expected. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The next day the cycle continues. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What’s interesting is whenever there’s an early call or appointment. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I can always get up for that. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Always. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Doesn’t matter how much rest I had, I could always show up for others. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But never for myself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “My tasks are just not that important.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Actually deep down what I was really thinking was ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “I’M not that important." ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You see, when you’re honest enough to turn your excuses to direct it at yourself, you see the truth of what's really going on. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The truth can hurt sometimes. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And the truth will help you grow. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Since then I’ve done A LOT of internal work to build up my self esteem and self belief. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Today when I hear the alarm, I get up. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Because I know I’m important. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My work matters. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m changing people’s lives. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How about you? What decisions are you making regularly that’s subconsciously putting yourself down? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ There’s always a deeper reason why you’re doing what you do. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What's your excuse? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you commit to finding the truth? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ No matter where you are right now, you should always remember: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What you do is important. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Your goals are important. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Your dreams are important. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Dear friend, you are important. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ There is no limit to your potential. The only limit is your mind pretending that there is a limit. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Rooting for you, ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Shir 🌱 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ P.S. If you’d like to get some life clarity & experience what it’s like to be coached, msg me to sign up for a free 1 hour clarity session. We’ll figure out how to get you to where you want to be. _ #showupforyourself #whatsyourwhy #embracechange
I used to panic whenever something went wrong in a I used to panic whenever something went wrong in a relationship.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ My head would spin into overthinking and stress.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I would try my best to fix the situation.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I would sacrifice my time, say "yes" when I didn't want to, and over-promise on my obligations.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I would do all I can to make sure the other person was okay.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ No.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Actually, I was lying to myself.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ The truth is I wasn't caring about others.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Deep down I was trying to make sure they liked me.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I was trying to fix everything so I was not disliked by anyone.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I was people pleasing.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It takes courage to be willing to be disliked by others.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Without needing to fix anything.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ With just allowing it and letting it be.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ yes, I felt sh*tty.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ yes, it was super uncomfortable.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ and yes, I was still okay.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It was exactly what I needed to go through.⁠ Because I'm now so much stronger on the other side.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Hey, it's okay for people to dislike you.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ There will always be those who don't like you.⁠ There will also be those who do.⁠ Because we can all do whatever the heck we want.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You just have to be willing to accept that.⁠ It's not easy.⁠ And you're going to be okay.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Rooting for you,⁠ Shir⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ __⁠ #peoplepleasing #emotionalresilience #emotionalhealth #mindfulnesspractice #emotionalwellbeing #mentalwellness #emotionalwellness #selfcompassion #mentalhealthtips #limitingbeliefs #healthymindset #smallvictories #workingonmyself #doingthisforme #ivegotthis #notgivingup #pushthrough #youvegotthis #showupforyourself #getuncomfortable #getoutofyourownway #beintentional #createthelifeyouwant #doitanyway #youcandohardthings #doitscared #madeformore #findingme #imworthit #learningtolovemyself⁠
"I know what I need to do, but I can't seem to mov "I know what I need to do, but I can't seem to move forward. Why is this happening to me? 😩"⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ My client asked me this question on our first call.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ The answer is belief.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Your belief about whether or not you can get to where you want to be.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ To be more specific, you lack the belief in yourself.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ In our sessions, I guide you through the process to build that belief.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ We work on your goals.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ We also work on your mind. ⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ We work on how you think about yourself, your relationships, your work, your future.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ We work on how you feel.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I help you navigate through fears, failures, disappointments, difficult transitions.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I teach you self compassion.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I will keep believing for you until you can start believing in yourself too.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ We're in this together.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ There is never a more perfect time to start than right now.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Rooting for you, ⁠ Shir⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ P.S. If you need guidance, send me a message to book a free clarity call and see if coaching is what you need. We'll figure out how to get you to where you want to be.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ___⁠ ⁠#mindfulnessmatters #manifesting #settingintentions #lifecoachingtips #selfcompassion #getgrounded #changeyourthinking #smallvictories #emotionalhealth #emotionalhealing #emotionalresilience #transformyourmind #changingmylife #workingonmyself #livewithintention #daringliving #lifesjourney #bestversionofme #mentalwellness #emotionalwellness #wellnesstips #wellnesslifestyle #takecareofyourself #manifestyourlife #manifestyourdreams #passionatelife #openyourheart #inspiredlife #liveyourbestlife⁠
As I navigate through life's adversity, I find tha As I navigate through life's adversity, I find that my experiences all have something in common.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I have to go THROUGH each to get to the other side.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And through that experience is the lesson I needed to learn.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I'm so grateful for them because they made my life so interesting, so alive, so rewarding.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Dear friend, adversity is only temporary.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ They come in seasons.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This is not the end.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And THROUGH each, you create a more daring and more intentional life every time.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It's the best thing ever.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ YOUR LIFE is the best thing ever.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ So keep going.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Rooting for you,⁠ Shir⁠ 🌱 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⁠ P.S. Each line on the graphic represents a certain moment for me. Can you relate any of these with your own?⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ____⁠ #emotionalhealth #limitingbeliefs #lifecoachingtips #lifecoaching101 #lifecoachinghappiness #lifecoachtips #mindfulnessmatters #manifesting #settingintentions #lifecoachingtips #selfcompassion #getgrounded #changeyourthinking #smallvictories #emotionalhealth #emotionalhealing #emotionalresilience #transformyourmind #changingmylife #workingonmyself #livewithintention #daringliving #lifesjourney #believing #workingonmyself #workingonme #believinginyourself #lifeonpurpose #icandohardthings
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