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Hi, I'm Shirley.
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Can you relate to any of these? 🤭 4 Common Myth Can you relate to any of these? 🤭 4 Common Myths about working with me/ life coaching vs. what it actually is (PART 2)⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ❌Myth #1:⁠ I will tell you how to "do your life" and give you life advice⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ✔️What it actually is:⁠ I will empower you to find your own answers and make decisions that feel good for you⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ❌Myth #2:⁠ You will end up depending on me and on coaching⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ✔️What it actually is:⁠ Through our work together you'll actually learn to depend on YOURSELF even more.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You will learn to trust yourself, make your own decisions confidently, solve your problems, and become more resourceful and self-sufficient.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ❌Myth #3:⁠ You seek a life coach when you need help getting back on your feet.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ✔️What it actually is:⁠ Partially true, if that's what you need.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Once you got back on your feet and feel better about where you are, I can help you go to the next level and really excel in what you do.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Life coaching can take your life from average to extraordinary.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ❌Myth #4:⁠ This work is going to be hard. Change is hard and painful and I'm not sure if it will work for me.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ✔️What it actually is:⁠ Life is already hard. Life coaching will actually ease the pain and reduce any unnecessary struggles that you're already experiencing.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Of course, this is not a quick fix. We're creating lasting change. Having doubt in the beginning is normal.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This is why I'm here guiding you along every step of the way.⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ➡️If you'd like to work toward your personal goals and improve your wellbeing with more ease💫, fun🎉, and joy🌱 in your life, then I'm the coach for you.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Send me a message to book a chat with me.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Why you're drained from work is not because you're Why you're drained from work is not because you're not good at your job.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It's also not because you can't manage your time.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ➡️ It's because you're living in your head a lot.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You judge yourself regularly and think that you should've perform better by now.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You wonder if the report you sent to your boss is good enough. ⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And that maybe your colleagues are judging you behind your back.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You proofread a document over and over, wanting to perfect every detail⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Before you realized, you've spent 2 hours on something that should've taken you 20 minutes.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Here's the thing though.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You're also not asking for help.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ You either don't know how to ask for help, or you don't think you should because it'll make you seem incapable.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ So you don't communicate and tell your team what you need.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ As a result you end up stuck at your tasks and suffering by yourself.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ But you're NOT bad at your job at all. (heck, you were hired for a reason!)⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ ➡️ You just don't know how to manage your internal world.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Feeling capable doesn't come from receiving a compliment from your boss ( now, of course this could help)⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ but you can receive positive feedback all day, and STILL feel incapable.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Because ultimately, you're the person who creates that feeling.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ It comes from what you believe and how you feel, about yourself.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And that's wonderful news. Because it means you have the ability to change that.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ My client, Jane said:⁠ ⁠ "I honestly feel a 180 degree turn in my performance today after our meeting last night. I don't know how you do it 😂 but I am SO thankful to be working with you!!"⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I can help you calm your internal world, build self-confidence from within, get out of your own head so you can actually get work done, and finally get your life back outside of work again.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Drastically improve your work performance and feel happier/ freer in 6 months or less.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Link is in my bio to book a discovery call.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The daring woman,⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She's not the loudest person in the room. But when she speaks, people pay attention.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She moves through the world with ease, playfulness, lightness, and calm.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She chooses growth over comfort, and steps into the unknown courageously without fully feeling ready.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She makes decisions that feels right to her, instead of following what she's "supposed to do" according to cultural/ societal standards.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She gives herself grace and compassion, no matter how difficult it is to do that in the moment.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She prioritizes who she is becoming, instead of chasing after the next shiny goal.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She goes first, without needing other things and people to change.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She's willing to be wrong, knowing that it will lead to her next evolution.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She prioritizes herself. Because that's when everything overflows to impact her external world.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She doesn't apologize for her bigness; she doesn't apologize for being herself.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She is daring.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ She is the daring woman.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Join me + other women in this daring living revolution to impact our lives, and the world. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Send me a message. Let the activation begin.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ P.s. can you tell I'm having lots of fun taking these photos? 🤣
Today, I woke up thinking I'm doing everything wro Today, I woke up thinking I'm doing everything wrong.⁠ - I woke up an hour later than usual⁠ - I didn't make the 1st call to the program I enrolled in⁠ - I was behind on my schedule, missed breakfast, and didn't have time to meditate and journal⁠ - My head was spinning out and I wasn't in the best space mentally and emotionally.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This was when I realized I needed to do something.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And that something, was NOT to try to catch up to what I had to do.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Here's what I did instead:⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ (1) I paused, got present, dropped down to my body and breathed.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ As I breathe into my body, I comforted myself, calmed my nervous system down, and told myself that everything's going to be okay.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ (2) I wrote out a list of amazing things that have happened to me over the past 48 hours and really looked at them, celebrated them, and let myself settle into them.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ (3) Then, I looked at my focus for this month, reminded myself again about who I am, reconnected to my mission and the energy that I want to embody.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Then I got to work feeling light, committed, loving, and powerful.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Sometimes you might start off the day with a bad start, and your brain will want to criticize you and make it be all or nothing.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ "Look at what you did. Your day's already ruined."⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ But that's not true.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Any moment is an opportunity to turn things around.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ This is a daily practice that can compound to create exponential changes in your life.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I can help you be aware of your self sabotage patterns, notice what's happening in the moment, calm your nervous system down, and redirect your brain into focus again.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ If you don't want to let a hiccup ruin your entire day, week, month - then send me a message.
6 months ago, my client Tina struggled with time m 6 months ago, my client Tina struggled with time management and didn't have time for herself.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Today, she's exercising regularly, taking on multiple work projects, while having more space and calm in her week.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 3 months ago, Jenny felt incapable at her job. Her work was draining and taking over her life.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Today, she's the lead engineer of multiple teams, closes her laptop after work hours, and gets to enjoy her weekend.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ 2 weeks ago, Stacey was very critical toward herself and can't focus her writing.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Today, she sits down to write without drama.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ These people didn't think it was possible for them at first.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ But they took a chance and decided to bet on themselves.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Instead of expecting their partners, their boss, their parents, their work, their schedule, or any external circumstances to change for them...⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ They invested in themselves, their brain, their wellbeing, their growth, and their future.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ And that's the best news ever.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Because when you bet on yourself, you always have control.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ I want you to bet on you.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Always.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Choose yourself over and over and over again.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁠ Make YOU the best damn investment ever.⁠ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
6 months ago, my client D. was freaking out over h 6 months ago, my client D. was freaking out over her goal to move to Texas. . She's been living in California all her life and the thought of moving across the country freaks her out. . She doesn't know what she's gonna do there. . Or how she's even gonna make it happen. .⠀ I told her that of course she'd freak out. ➡️ The only reason the brain would freak out is because it's no longer a fantasy anymore. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ➡️ It actually feels realistic and the brain is simply responding to that possibility . Today, she has quit her job, started an e-commerce company, sold her condo, bought a van and is currently planning her trip to Texas. . How cool is that?! . I want you to know that she didn't do it without the fear. . Hell no. That fear was (and is) as strong as ever. . ➡️But we didn't make it a problem for her. . 🔹What we did instead, was we comforted her fear/ doubt every time they surface, knowing that they will never fully go away, and that's okay. . 🔹We worked on helping her take one courageous step forward at a time. . 🔹Every obstacle she overcame, she dove deeper into her resourcefulness, strengthened her problem solving skills, & cultivated even deeper self-trust than ever before. . Now 6 months later, she's living her most vibrant life that makes her come alive. . People around her are inspired by what she has achieved. . So the truth is, . Any type of major change and commitment in your life will require you to take a leap of faith.. along with some fear. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we work together, I will hold your fears/ doubts/ worry in a loving space... without making any of them a problem. . Because trust me, I've seen lots of magical things happen over in this space. 😉 Your visions/ goals are safe with me. . Nothing is too big or too impossible to make happen. . We will overcome your obstacles one at a time. And ALL parts of you can join (especially the imperfect, nervous, scared, anxious parts of you) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I can help you move forward despite all of it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Now booking new clients for June 2021. Send me a message. Life is always happening whether you like it or not. And your goals and desires are too important. Don't make them wait💜
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