Are you making things harder than they need to be? This week, I explore the belief that many of us hold, especially in Asian culture and immigrant upbringings: that for something to be truly valuable, it has to be hard. We often feel we need to struggle or overcome immense challenges before we believe our success is valid or that we’re worthy of it.
There’s this subconscious drive to make things difficult, as if ease somehow diminishes our achievements. But what if ease in success and self-worth could be just as valid? What if things could come naturally, without the struggle, and still count JUST as much?
I also talk about how, as we reach new levels of success or productivity, we may subconsciously sabotage ourselves and create problems or drama because it feels unfamiliar to be at this new level of capacity and success.
I discuss how to zoom out to broaden your perspective, allow your nervous system to settle into more ease, and approach your current challenges with more lightheartedness and playfulness.
DARING LIVING PODCAST SHOWNOTES
Key Points:
- We often make things harder for ourselves without realizing it.
- Success doesn’t always have to be a struggle; good things can come easily.
- Sometimes when things are going well, our brains try to create problems (the Upper Limit Problem).
- Perspective is crucial when dealing with stress and problems.
- Bringing lightheartedness to our challenges can improve our life experience.
Actionable Takeaways:
- Catch yourself complicating things and ask, “Am I making this harder than it needs to be?”
- Practice the mantra: “Money (or success, or love) can come to me easily, naturally, effortlessly, and it still counts.”
- When worried during good times, pause and ask: “Is this a real problem, or am I just not used to things being good?”
- When stressed, zoom out and ask: “Will this matter in 5 years?”
- Approach challenges with a sense of play or humor to change your experience.
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