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4 Goal Setting Mistakes to Avoid

If you are into personal development, you would probably know how important it is to set goals.

We all want to set goals. Yet not many people can set goals in an attainable and achievable way.

Here are the 4 most common goal-setting mistakes and what you can do about them.

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How to Set Goals with Intention

Don’t you just love the feeling of setting your goals and then crushing them? I am a big goal-getter myself.

Yet the reality is that many of us set goals, but we don’t necessarily achieve them.

Over time, this cycle continues and we can easily feel defeated because we don’t trust ourselves enough to achieve the goals we set out to accomplish.

Setting an Intentional Goal

In order to successfully set a goal that you can achieve, you have to be very clear and intentional about it.

It’s more important to set one intentional goal than set ten unrelated, irrelevant goals that do not mean anything to you.

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5 Ways to Setting Goals with Intention

1. REVERSE ENGINEER YOUR GOAL

Even before you set your goal, you need to have the end result in mind. What do you want to achieve with your goal? What does the final result look like?

How does achieving this goal help you achieve the vision you have for yourself?

First you need to get clear about how you want your future to look like. Then decide if accomplishing this goal will lead you closer to the life that you want.

Always start with the end goal in mind.

2. GET CRYSTAL CLEAR ON YOUR WHY

Knowing why you are doing what you do will keep you rooted in until you achieved your goal. If you find yourself not feeling motivated often, your why may not be strong enough.

Your why should not come from an external reward but an intrinsic reason that is very important to you. 

You need to know with clarity the reason why you MUST accomplish your goal, and have a relentless belief that you can achieve it. 

3. CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF OFTEN

Sometimes we do not achieve our goal simply because we forgot about it. Life happens and we can easily lose track of our direction and our goal as time goes by.

Checking in with yourself regularly is very important. Have you goal written down. Set up a time every day and every week to check in on your progress and make any adjustments necessary.

Stay committed to your end goal, but be flexible with the approach.

 

4. PLAN AHEAD AND PREPARE FOR OBSTACLES

Create a plan for your goal. Often we get overwhelmed because we goal feels too big and out of scope. Break down your big goal into smaller projects and set a deadline to achieve each of them.

Besides creating a plan for your goals, you also need to prepare for obstacles. Anticipate some possible obstacles that might come up. What are your strategies to overcome them? What excuses might you give yourself and how are you going to address them?

Remember, it’s more important to set one right, intentional goal than it is to set ten irrelevant goals. Goal setting is fun. But actually accomplishing the goal is what creates the result you want in your life.

 

Rooting for you, 

Shir

 

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How to Create Daily Transitions

Often we take on multiple roles at different times in our day-to-day lives. It’s likely that in a single day, you may have to walk into the role of the son/daughter, the employee, the friend, the partner, or the sister/brother.

Each role may require a different type of energy with a different approach to the situation.

For example, you may not want to talk to your boss at work the same way as how you would talk to your partner at home.

Sometimes, these roles can be blurred when we are not aware of this shift and do not take mindful actions to make that transition.

This is why many people cannot relax and rest properly after they returned home from a long day working. They have not fully transitioned out of their employee role.

Why It’s Important to Have Transitions in Your Day

Creating daily transitions will help you make an intentional shift into the next phase in your day. It helps you practice mindfulness, take a break, and prepare yourself to show up as your best in your new role.

Creating transitions can help you focus better and produce the best work as an employee, while also being the attentive and loving daughter/ partner at home.

These transitions can also serve as a quick self care break for you to be mindful of the present moment and be grateful with what you have.

How to Create Daily Transitions

1. IDENTIFY DIFFERENT PHASES IN YOUR DAY

How do you want to split your day? When do you want to create transitions? I like to split my day by time. 

For example, I have one transition break in the morning before I start work, one right after my lunch, one before dinner, and one before I head to bed. I typically have about 4 transitions a day. While working, I sometimes create transitions in between different types of tasks as well.

2. CREATE INTENTIONAL TRANSITIONS

What are some activities you can do to create an intentional transition?

When I create my transitions I like to focus on three actions:

  1. letting go 
  2. bringing myself back to the present
  3. setting a new intention 

Try to look for activities or a combination of activities that can help you achieve these three actions. Some examples include meditation, journaling, going for a walk, doing quick stretches, deep breathing, or even simply choose to just do nothing and be present.

You can decide how long you want the transition break to be. I find that 5-10 minutes of mindful transition is a good time frame for me. 

3. SET A CUE TO START THE TRANSITION

You want to make these transitions into habits. Decide what the cue is (either a reminder/ activity) that will lead you to doing the transition.

For example, every day when you arrive home from work (cue), you sit down and meditate for 5 minutes (transition). Or right after you grab your coffee at work (cue), you go over your agenda for the day and do a quick breathing exercise (transition).

Many times, during the transition I will ask myself these questions:

  • How do I feel right now?
  • What do I need?
  • What’s my new focus entering the next phase?

You can be very creative about how to create your transitions and what you want them to look like. Make sure the transitions allow you be mindful of your present moment, and provide a conscious shift for you to prepare yourself moving forward.

Having transitions will help you show up at your best and be very intentional throughout the day about how you want your day to be.

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Rooting for you,

Shir

When do you need to create transitions in your day? What do they look like?