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Hi, I'm Shirley.
I'm a Certified Life Coach. I help driven women create joy and success through brain-based coaching, self compassion, and emotional resilience.
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Shirley | Life Coach
THERAPY VS. LIFE COACHING⁠ ⁠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ THERAPY VS. LIFE COACHING⁠
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🔹Counselling/ therapy works mainly with the past. Whereas coaching focuses more on the present and future.⁠
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🔹Therapy is more about healing past wounds and trauma; coaching works more with where you are now, and how to create a desirable future that you want to create (If we do talk about the past, it's about working through it in a way that's helpful to you now)⁠
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🔹Therapy mainly takes you from dysfunctional to functional. Whereas coaching takes you from functional to thriving.⁠
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CLIENT & COACH/ THERAPIST RELATIONSHIP⁠
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🔹The therapist diagnoses the problem, then provides expertise/ guidelines to help you work through trauma and healing (therapist knows and has the answers)⁠
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🔹The coach is in a collaborative partnership with you, helps you identify challenges, teaches you self-accountability, and coaches you through obstacles to achieve the results you want (you have the answers)⁠
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Now, this is a broad generalization, of course. These definitions could vary between individual therapists/ coaches, their style/ methods of working with you, and their specialization.
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➡️Personally, I believe that coaching is for everyone.⁠
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We're all humans with human brains 🧠 and learning to manage your thoughts and emotions can benefit you doesn't matter where you are in life.⁠
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I am working with clients who are also working with therapists at the same time too.⁠
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Every one of us all have some kind of past healing/ trauma work to do. But that doesn't have to be what's holding you back.⁠
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You can still decide to work on yourself now, and actively go for what you want to have in your career, relationships, and personal goals (if you choose to, of course)⁠
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➡️ Ultimately, you get to decide what you're looking for and what's best for you.⁠
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And if you've been enjoyable what I share, my vibe, and how I explain things, then I could be the right coach for you.⁠
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Did something spark in you after reading this post? Feel like life coaching is what you need?⁠
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When you're ready, you can send me a DM.
⬇️Read this when you feel hopeless⬇️⁠
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Wherever you are right now, it's not forever.⁠
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I know it might feel like that right now.⁠
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But that's only because you're so deep in the hole that you couldn't see anything else.⁠
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First, I want you to breathe.⁠
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Then, loosen your jaw.⁠
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Drop your shoulders down.⁠
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And lean back on your chair.⁠
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Then tell yourself how much you appreciate you.⁠
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Thank yourself for being here, reading this post.⁠
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And tell yourself that no matter what happens, you'll always be here for you.⁠
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You're going to be okay.⁠
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And then, I want you to make the next decision, not out of fear of where you are and what's happening in your life right now - but make that next powerful decision thinking about the future you want to create.⁠
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It doesn't matter if you have a job or not, or how much is in your bank account right now, or whether you have a partner or not.⁠
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What matters is you make the decision NOT for right now, but for that future you secretly daydream about.⁠
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In order to have that life, what can you decide on today? Be honest with yourself. ⁠
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Maybe that decision looks like reaching out and asking for help.⁠
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Or perhaps it's to sit down and send out some resumes.⁠
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Or maybe it's to be kinder to yourself.⁠
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Nothing fancy or complicated.⁠
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Just one decision at a time.⁠
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That is all you ever need to move forward.⁠
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You know exactly what you need to do.⁠
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Love,⁠
Shir
I sat at my desk at work & contributed to projects I sat at my desk at work & contributed to projects that kept being turned down by management for 2 years.⁠
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2 FULL years. That’s like, approx 700 days spent on… not really getting anything done. 😅⁠
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You’re prob thinking: Yeah... I can totally relate to that.⁠
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If this is you- um first of all, WHY are you still there?⁠
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If under any circumstance, you know this is where you need to be (for ex. You need to be there temporarily for the money or experience)⁠
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Then that’s ok. Honor your time now.⁠
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But, are you doing anything else on the side to fulfill your innate gift?⁠
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Because here’s what happens if you’re not.⁠
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You will feel empty somehow. Unfulfilled. And you will hate your job more and more and more (But it’s not really about your job)⁠
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What’s happening is you’re just afraid to try something new.⁠
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And you blame it⁠
...on your lack of skills/ experience.⁠
...on your current job.⁠
...on not having enough time.⁠
...on your parents or your teachers (for not teaching you or, FOR teaching you certain beliefs growing up)⁠
...on the current economy or the market.⁠
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But deep down, really, you just don’t BELIEVE, IN YOURSELF.⁠
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You see all these incredible ppl doing the work that you want to be doing, but you’re not doing it because you doubt yourself & your vision.⁠
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And my friend, it's totally okay to doubt. There’s nothing WRONG with doubting. Self-doubt is an emotion in your body.⁠
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Can you see it for what it is, and be with it without judgement?⁠
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Even CEO’s have doubts. They just don’t make that mean anything. Instead, they commit to finding certainty and staying focused on serving their people and vision.⁠
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You’re also the CEO of your own life. You have always been.⁠
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No one is going to do this for you, but yourself.⁠
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When we work together, I will teach you how to stay committed to your goals, always.⁠
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You have a deeper calling to fulfill on Earth.⁠
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And I am NOT going to let you give up on yourself.⁠
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Ever.⁠
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Neither should you.
It doesn't matter⁠ how much someone loves you an It doesn't matter⁠ how much someone loves you and provide gestures of love. If you do not truly allow yourself to receive their love... then you cannot feel loved (by them).⁠
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Love is an emotion you create for yourself.⁠ If deep down, you do not believe you deserve lots of love, then you cannot feel love.⁠
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This is why self-love is the foundation work. Only when you believe you are capable of being loved dearly, and give yourself that love, then can you truly receive love from others.⁠
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⁠🎧 Tune into Daring Living Podcast Ep 49. Ability to Love⁠
Click the link in bio.⁠
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