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53 – Loving Yourself Guided Healing Meditation

This meditation is designed to help you heal and love yourself and your past.

If you feel resistant to move forward or you know there are parts of you you’re neglecting… then this is the exercise for you.

Give yourself 10 minute of your day to do this for yourself.

Get comfortable and let’s dive in.

This guided healing meditation is designed to help you heal and love yourself and your past. Get comfortable and dive right in. #lifecoaching #daringliving #meditation #healing #lovingyourself

How to stop feeling guilty for wanting more

Are you feeling guilty for wanting more out of your life?

This could look like wanting more in a relationship (maybe you secretly desire a partner who is more exciting and fun) Or maybe you want more in your career (perhaps you actually don’t want to be in your current job anymore, but you have an understanding boss and great colleagues, so you feel guilty for leaving)

Or, the guilt could be because of your family. Perhaps you are stable career right now, but you’re not really doing what you love. Yet, you know your parents have sacrificed a lot in order for you to go to college and have a stable job.

Deep down, you kind of want more.

Yet, you feel guilty. You keep telling yourself that should just be “grateful” with what you have.

If this is how you feel, here are 4 key points to remember:

1.You’re taking actions out of guilt, not from your truest desire

You might think it’s more responsible to feel guilty about wanting more in your life, but it’s not. Because the result of feeling guilty is that no party is better off. For you or for others.

When you feel guilty, you’re doing things out of feeling guilt. This does not create the best experience for you, or everyone that’s around you.

For example: Let’s say you work as a researcher in a lab. You graduated with a Bachelors in Science. And deep down, you really desire to create your own online business. You feel guilty because you have a good life, a loving family, yet you’re really just not satisfied with your job.

How this manifests in your life is you might not put in 100% at work, so you’re not serving the team and your company this way. Perhaps you also resent your parents a bit. Because you blame them for being the ones who made you study science in college in the first place. So as a result, you don’t show up fully to care and love them.

This guilt that you’re holding on to… is not beneficial for you, or for anyone around you. This emotion is only holding you back.

The form you have selected does not exist.

2. Guilt is an emotion that you feel. You can choose to let it go at any time

It’s simply unnecessary to feel guilty for wanting more for your life. This life is yours. And if you’re not satisfied with it, you get to make that decision to change it and take actions from it.

The reason why you feel guilty is because you’re having thoughts such as:  “ I shouldn’t be thinking this way.” “I should be grateful with what I have.” “I shouldn’t ask for more.”

And these thoughts are creating lots of guilt for you. So, just like any other emotions, you can decide to think differently about your situation to not be in guilt.

Be honest with yourself.

Own the fact that you actually want something different than what you have right now. Own that about you. There is nothing wrong with wanting more in your life.

3. Don’t use “being grateful” against yourself.

Especially if you come from a culture where you’re constantly being told to be grateful, sometimes we can use the need to be grateful against ourselves.

For example, I am an immigrant from Taiwan. And growing up, my siblings and I were always told to be grateful with what we have. Not many people in Asia get to experience the kind of opportunity we can have access to in North America.

And, I truly feel so grateful and thankful for my family and all that my parents have done for their children. Yet, this can also create lots of pressure growing up. Because as children of immigrant families, we also feel responsible to achieve the dreams that our parents want for us… which often looks like being in a stable job, starting a family, and settling down.

I’m sure you can probably relate to some of this pressure and telling ourselves to just be grateful with what we have.

4. Learn to appreciate what you have. Then, decide what to do next.

When we feel guilty or resentful, we make decisions trying to run away from our problems. Yet we all know that decisions made from that place do not necessary align with what’s really good for us.

 Instead, this is what you do. You work on truly appreciating what you have right now. Appreciating your current relationship. Appreciating your current job. And be actually enjoying it as it is.

And then when you can get to the point of true appreciation, then you decide what to do next.

Reminder: just because you can appreciate, doesn’t mean you have to stay. No, no you don’t. You can still desire for more and want to leave, just because you want to.

You can appreciate your career. And decide that you want to explore a different path.

You can appreciate your partner and your relationship. And decide that it is complete and you want to move on.

You don’t need things to be horribly wrong to want to change.

And actually, when they are horribly wrong and you decide to change, you’re making decisions from fear and escaping it instead of facing the problem head on.

Now, this also depends on context, because let’s say you are in an abusive relationship or a racist/ sexist workplace, then maybe you do want to change. But I’m speaking to those who feel guilty because your life is actually pretty good.

In this case, you can still change and make the decision for yourself just because you want to. Stop settling for good enough when you truly want an extraordinary life.

Let’s recap:

First, you work on the guilt. Learn to let go of that.

Then, learn to truly appreciate all that you have.

And then, you decide what you want to do from an empowering place. (You can still leave, just because you want to)

Alright? You got this.

You’re creating an amazing life for yourself and I can’t wait for what’s to come for you.



Mindset and emotion work is so powerful to helping you appreciate where you are and let go of self-guilt, self-judgement, and shame. If you want more guidance on this work, I’d love to be your coach and support you throughout your journey.

Feel free to book a call with me to see how life coaching can take you to the next level to create an extraordinary life for yourself.

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